Redefining Masculinity and Aligning to the Masculine Divine

Patriarchy creates stereotypical expectations for men and limit the ability to express the full range of human emotion.

Patriarchy creates stereotypical expectations for men and limit the ability to express the full range of human emotion.

Kuan Yin’s Mantra (c) 2002 Lisa Thiel – used by permission http://www.sacreddream.com

Opening to a balance within the Masculine and Feminine Divine assists men in becoming more of who they truly are.

Opening to a balance within the Masculine and Feminine Divine assists men in becoming more of who they truly are.

The divine masculine is what is going to support the birth process of the new earth, which is being brought into manifestation by divine feminine. Thus, the new earth is a co-creation that depends on divine feminine and divine masculine both coming into its full respective power.

In our modern society, masculinity has been seen as a problem rather than something that should be embraced, because it is rare that any man exhibits true masculinity.

The only example of masculinity we currently have is the shadow side of masculinity. This shadow side of masculinity fuels the societal idea of competitive hierarchy. In other words, it fuels the idea that one person on top of another person.

The shadow side of masculinity perpetuates vertical thinking. Vertical thinking is comparative thinking; where it is possible to be better than or less than someone else. And so, the power struggle was born.

Divine masculine represents action, direction, movement, responsibility, strength, focus, fatherhood, the sun, generosity, encouragement, material abundance, clarity, intellect, transformation and growth.

The divine masculine is what is going to support the birth process of the new earth, which is being brought into manifestation by divine feminine. Thus, the new earth is a co-creation that depends on divine feminine and divine masculine both coming into its full respective power.

You need to be willing to heal your negative emotions relative to anything you identify as male to set the masculinity within you free. It is exhausting suppressing the essence of who you are. And so, it is time to quit suppressing who you are.

In this session, Teal explains how men can open up to the divine masculine within themselves.http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCPDBOLJyHAL69fsFpY7li6Q?feature=mhee
http://www.askteal.com

We have a Masculine Divine Board at CD Creative Ventures’s Pinterest Profile and here is the link:

Silencing the Harsh Inner Critic

In my youth I felt like a lowly caterpiller until healed my life and became a weird and wonderful butterfly. It is why we chose them as the logo for our company and my book.

In my youth I felt like a lowly caterpiller until healed my life and became a weird and wonderful butterfly. It is why we chose them as the logo for our company and my book

–By Coralie Raia Darsey-Malloy

My father’s mouth twists in a snarling expression as dark foreboding eyes spit sparks of rejection that sting the very essence of my being. The volcanic intensity of his energetic eruption sears into my spirit and I recoil within in a futile attempt to reduce the impact of his diminishing words. “Create—all you ever want is the time and money to create—create what?

You can’t make a living creating—you’re just lazy—you don’t want to work—you never finish anything—grow up– take some responsibility! Quit all the daydreaming and get a real job. You will never amount to anything creating—it is bloody well ridiculous! Then he’d mutter some indistinguishable words as he stormed away leaving me feeling as fractured as Humpty Dumpty after his fall—with no Kings’ horses or men to put me back together again.

I loved my father and desperately wanted his love, approval and acknowledgement—but after a lifetime of trying to measure up, I never succeeded. Little did I know then how his rejection of my basic essence would warp things and lead me down a path that was fuelled by a desire to be perceived as responsible, productive, and hard-working and most certainly a finisher—at all cost. Without really understanding the process, a rift began to develop between what was authentic for me and things I needed to compensate for because of my father’s rejection. Through time, the chasm grew.

                       

His unyeilding criticism and rejection distorted my sense of self and I began to define myself outwardly because of an innate lack of self-worth.   My father’s rejection showed up as a harsh inner critic that continued to drive my perfectionist behaviors. In contrast, the whisperings of my inner spiritual world had creative urges that sought expression. When for fleeting moments I would tune into that inner space it felt graceful, inventive and teeming with possibility. Unfortunately, the creative urges were difficult to fulfill within the distraction of outer busy-ness. There was a greater need to prove to my father, the world and myself that I was not the inadequate, irresponsible wing nut Dad said I was.

A mind-trap developed and it drove me hard. There were some pay-offs though and I often found myself basing in accolades from others. I interpreted their comments about not having an off-switch—or being the energizer bunny and laughingly saying they wanted to remove my batteries as proof that I was not some idiosyncratic misfit. Their comments fed ego-driven needs that pushed me onwards and upwards. The ‘busy-ness syndrome’ became a way of life and helped keep the inner critic at bay. Through time, the incongruities of living within a house divided began to create a variety of health problems.

Feeling burdened by inadequacy and living an inauthentic life led to the development of two eating disorders. Patterns of compulsive coping alternated between self-starvation (anorexia nervosa) and binge/purge cycles of bulimia and laxative abuse. Long muffled signals of what it felt like to feel unencumbered, free, happy became distant echoes for over thirty years. Other times feelings of fear, dissatisfaction and inadequacy engulfed me completely. Other times the ‘busy-ness’ would cause my body to rebel and the only way it could preserve itself and slow me down was to create illnesses or accidents.

Even then, I could not relax and truly let go—my mind was so locked into driven, self-punishing workaholic’s pattern did not allow l for sustained periods of inner peace and balance. After a series of setbacks, I developed fibromyalgia. That turned out to be one of my greatest life lessons because it had such a slowing effect that it allowed to realize I was searching for something and I began to look for new ways to increase my spiritual bandwidth.

Somewhere along the path I had rejected most forms of organized religion because my mind could not reconcile the gaping discrepancies that were (in my opinion) too blatantly obvious for any thinking, questioning person to ignore. I wanted a relationship with a different kind of Deity—one that was available every moment of every day and one that could provide a more compassionate lens for me to view my life. That was not what I found within many pious pulpits. After many health challenges I began to look for a spiritual life rather religiousness formulated only on the outer and perceptions of human thinking.

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Even though my busy mind kept waking hours jammed to the point of bursting there were more frequent connections breakthroughs to what I knew was a Higher Power. During those times, I would feel calmer and was kinder and gentler towards others. In a similar feel, there were some expansive periods where outlets for creative self-expression returned and so did the bliss.  However, those times were short-lived.

The hard-wired imprinting of my youth would re-activate the negative areas of my brain and the old groove would become a vacuous trap that would suck me back into deep feelings of inadequacy about not being productive—and therefore not good enough. The mind-trap of busy-ness that had become a distinct personal identifier took years to transform. Nevertheless, the interesting part of it all was that my personal challenges and healing journey led me on a quest and that allowed me to create a successful career as a life coach, group leader and free-lance writer.

Eventually I developed enough awareness to see that the inner saboteur was making it difficult to take care of body, my whole self and I began to find ways to re-frame my thinking, and as I changed my beliefs— my outer life changed as well. After recovering memories of sexual abuse, I was able to overcome both two eating disorders and live a more balanced, fulfilling life. As I healed and became whole, I met the love of my life and married for the second time. My relationship with David created a safe haven for what at times felt like a bedraggled body and spirit. With his encouragement, love and support I began to see things differently.

During the times my driver would come back in full force David would create peaceful pauses by gently asking—“When is enough ever going to be enough for you? As I watch you, it is clear that you never take any real pleasure in your accomplishments. You finish something then barely pause to enjoy anything before saying NEXT! You are a fiercely creative and a  original thinker yet you reject the very essence of who you are and what you do. Can’t you see that you are treating yourself and your achievements the same way your father did?”

One would think that kind of feedback would be an epiphany and clang a chord that evoked instantaneous change—but it did not happen that way for me. As with most growth processes change comes by taking three steps forward, two steps back then three steps forward until we make lasting changes. It took awhile, but the positive reinforcement from David began to re-frame the old programming.

It was daunting at times to confront ingrained mindsets but with persistence and cognitive re-structuring my inner landscape changed and so did my outer world. After years of white-knuckle, nail-biting challenges I now have a ‘so what’ attitude and no longer feel any need to justify I how I choose live. By choosing to stop worrying about other people’s perceptions, it is easier to follow my own Loadstar.

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That attitude allowed me to slow down and write a 500-page manuscript about my healing journey and spiritual development. I’ve Been There—A Testimony of Hope www.ibtbook.com. It will be another visual reminder that will assist me in erasing my father’s opinion that I am not a ‘finisher.’ The ripple effect of that inner knowing has allowed me to become more capable, responsible and discerning than I ever dreamed possible.

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Being able to accept that my quirks, flaws and eccentricities are a viable aspect of what makes me unique has finally silenced that harsh voice from the past that contributed to inner and outer chaos. Repeated exposure to any emotional state creates coping patterns that can be healthy or unhealthy. The old continuum has found a different path to follow and the momentum continually contributes to improved health, increased well-being and a more balanced lifestyle.

It is very different from the fragmented, disjointed, dissociated way I once lived. Once I grew tired of feeling entrapped within my ‘personal displeasure centers’ my intention to change created a positive ripple effect. I built upon the original desire for change by opening myself to the love and support of my partner David, having some and holding firm to the decision leave old self-perceptions behind live a more authentic life.

Thankfully, with practice and persistence it became easier to reveal more of who I really am. That has created a sense of solidarity between my inner landscape and outer activities. Once I told he inner critic to put a sock in it I could hear the inner whispers from my soul and heart’s desires.  Both my parents have passed on and with the balanced life David and I now live we live within our means I listen to the All-knowing voice within. I am aligned to the Feminine Divine aspects of the Divine and the spiritual guidance and support I receive during meditation loves, is encouraging and more powerful than anything my father said. Consequently, I am free to live an authentic, conscious Source-centered life on my own terms!

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My journey to health and wholeness gave me an opportunity to grow beyond the past limitations. The healing and life learning created a passion for whole person healing and dynamic living and is the focus of the personal development company David and I co-founded and co-direct. For more information about Fresh Beginnings check the website at www.fresh-beginnings.com

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Creating Sacred Spaces with Alters

Ideas for creating alters and sacred spaces

Ideas for creating alters and sacred spaces

By Coralie Raia Darsey-Malloy

Altars have been created to worship God/Goddess create an atmosphere of peace and tranquility.  David and I have alters and sacred spaces throughout our home and outdoor areas. Each one represents different intentions or representations of our connection to The Divines. In our experience each alter raises the resonance and assist us in maintain a reverent and respectful spiritual connection. They are a mirror and symbolic reminder and blessing to the relationships we enjoy with others, people, nature, and Divine Spirit, which leads us to wholeness and enlightenment.

After deciding to add an alter, it may be helpful to consider the placing and reason for its creation. Consider where the placement and what it represents. Do you have specific desires or intentions surrounding it? Does the focus involve a desire to connect with specific Divines? Is it a request for peace, healing, prosperity? Is the alter for you or a loved one? What items will you add to mirror the intent to you? Some find it useful to write considerations down and source the items before creating the alter while others add to it later. Whatever process brings peace and purpose is the main consideration.

Some add spiritual signs and symbols to objects to augment the focus and energy of their alters.

Some add spiritual signs and symbols to objects to augment the focus and energy of their alters.

Choices may reflect religious beliefs or the objects may reflect particular themes such as peace or love. Altar objects are sacred representations of one’s inner landscape. Decorating a box for prayers and/or affirmations is another option. Choose items that express feelings of joy, peace, grief, gratitude or anything else. Representations of the elements augment a connection to nature. For air: fans, flags, banners, feathers. Water: fountains, bowls of water, seashells, or essential oils in water •Earth: gems, stones, crystals, potting soil, plants, flowers •Fire: candles, incense, pictures of flames, pictures of Sun.

One of many Alters in our home. This triad honours our connection to Goddess Lakshmi, Tara and Quan Yin (from Left to right. We add gifts that represent their attitubutes to show our appreciation for the blessings each one brings to life.

One of many Alters in our home. This triad honours our connection to Goddess Lakshmi, Tara and Quan Yin (from Left to right. We add gifts that represent their attitubutes to show our appreciation for the blessings each one brings to life.

In our experience, each altar evokes a certain state of mind whenever we look at it. We use ritual and ceremony and light candles, express gratitude and ask for spiritual clarity in our prayers and during meditation. The alters assist us in honouring our wholeness, heighten awareness and our Divinity. Each altar facilitates energy to realms beyond the material. We use chimes, bells, music, chant, sing, drum or simply some soft music enjoy a quiet, reflective time by the alters.

Creating alters inspires us to be responsible for the energy we bring to wherever we are.

Creating alters inspires us to be responsible for the energy we bring to wherever we are.

Meditation assists us to move into our inner sacred space to connect with our Divine Spirit.  Within the stillness of meditation, we pray, ask for guidance, visualize how we would like your life to be and in this place there is an embracing feel of Divine within.  The quietude facilitates the ability to listen and hear the still small voice within.  The experience of spiritual connection fosters the ability to be grateful for each blessing.

Altar  change and evolve as we transform and expand spiritual awareness. In our experience each one augments our alignment to specific Dieties and are symbolic reminders to remain humble and grateful. They  keep us mindful and add to the energetic resonance in our home. Alters create a peaceful unity and flow within our spiritual emergence.  We do not believe it is necessary to go to churches when one brings the sacred feel of alters, candles, insence and reverence to one’s home.

If you are interested in this topic and to see other alters check out the Pinterest Board on Alters at CD Creative Ventures:

 

Using cleansing prayers prior to meditation while creating alters clears the space and opens the channel for high frequency energy.

Using cleansing prayers prior to meditation while creating alters clears the space and opens the channel for high frequency energy.

Embracing The Divine Feminine

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By Coralie Raia Darsey-Malloy

God may be in the details, but the goddess is in the questions. Once we begin to ask them, there’s no turning back.

–Gloria Steinem

I started opening to Goddesses and energies within the Feminine Divine and their emerging presence in the mid eighties. This Blog post shares some of my insights in my soul path discoveries with Her in my spiritual and personl growth. Opening to Goddesses continues to assist me in walking my sacred path with ease, balance and flow. The bountiful blessings increase as my alignment with the Feminine Divine grows. Their gentle presence is very different from the dogma and patriarchy in my exposure to religion early life where God was the only choice in searching for a connection to Infinite Souce. At this stage I believe male and female Deities are equal with different attributes.

To keep the channels open, my day begins daily self-care practices. Journaling my path with Goddesses is one of the ways I enhance my commitment to shining with divine feminine radiance. Expressing the Feminine Divine enhances intuition, feeling into things, nurturing plus receiving. Comparatively, the masculine is action orientated, logical and analytical. I use the feminine to perceive needs then balance that with the masculine action to outwardly direct my intentions and create the best life possible at any age and stage.

As I focus on the Divine Feminine Her gentle guidance assists me in getting out of the way so it is easier “allow”the flow of Source-centred energy.There are three practices that support this intent. Journaling is one, as is sensual joy in how I dress, walk, dance and move. There arealters throughout our home with Feminine Dieties. Their visible presence are reminders of their special attribues. Pleasure and sensual enjoyment with David keep the my body, mind and spirit in alignment to the Divine Feminine. Reading books and using Goddess oracles inspire and continue to raise the energetic frequency.

Journaling and oracles focuses attentioin on desires and our larger life purpose. While journaling I energetically align to the blocks that keep me stagnant and removed from the flow of life. Diarizing thoughts, feelings and spiritual epiphanies are part of my gratitude practices. In this way I remain thankful and aware of the manifestation process in action and how my desires are being fullfilled. It is a direct communion with the Divine and makes the rest of my day holy and scared.

Within these precious moments I discovered that one cannot be impatient with the Divine Feminine. She is all thing and exists outside of time. Her presence is felt when She is ready and not before. Once we begin to open the channels she hears and feels the love and respect, nourishment and support. As the connection grows she offers that back…and so much more. In my experience the alters, oracles and offerings draw Her closer and augments the energy exchanges.

There is no ceiling to the love and support Goddesses provide to those who embrace her. My husband David is open to the Feminine Divine within his spiritual beliefs we both feel the balancing effect. Holding the masculine and feminine within assists us in expressing the full range of human emotions without gender stereotyping.

The feminine IS the core of creation that is LOVE. She and the Great Mother are one and the same. Every woman instinctively knows that she is at the center of thegreat mystery of bringing life into the world and how there is a sacred transformation of light into matter. Every woman intuitively knows that nothing can be born without the feminine.

The feminine energy is enormously powerful, and we would not be here without Her presence. With our Celtic roots we have an affinity wih Goddesses and their Divine roles. With many religions the dogma was written by men and the power of the feminine has been feared and suppressed within the psyche and mass thinking. The feminine represents the felt and unseen and nurtures and opens hearts and minds through greater intuition. It also encourages heart-centered living and loving through compassionate sight.

My feminine practices support me in being the juicy, delicious, vibrant women that I am. What new practices can you bring in that will support your transformation and personal empowerment? As we allow the feminine influences in we are more able to become the butterflies in transformation that we already are. Emerging, growing, changing while revealling our true colours from the inside out. Genunine, open and free to fly ever higher and stronger with our own wings.

The simplest and most basic meaning of the symbol of the Goddess is the acknowledgment of the legitimacy of female power as a beneficent and independent power.
–Carol P. Christ

For more information about Goddesses and the Feminine Divine check out our Blog: http://goddessesandthefemininedivine.blogspot.ca/
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This is a video David and I created to illustrate the role of the Feminine Godhead and female deities. With a respect for diversity embracing the Feminine Divine provides another perspective to soul growth.