Body Dynamics~Loving and Accepting our Bodies

Loving and accepting the body I have and feeling fit and fab as I age.

Loving and accepting the body I have and feeling fit and fab as I age.



–By Coralie Raia Darsey-Malloy

Whenever I observe magazines and entertainment programs showing images of women with altered images of their appearance, size and shape it reminds me to keep it real.  The average woman cannot morph into those skinny images. It is unhealthy to lock the mindset into limiting self-perceptions. Young and old alike often develop distortions that lead to eating disorders and faulty perceptions about body image.

In my youth, I took a modeling course and pursued a career in the fashion industry.  The constant exposure to unrealistic expectations about beauty led to discontent about the height, size and shape of my body. I am five feet two inches and in an attempt to compensate for what I perceived as an inadequate height I tried to compensate by starving my body to a low weight.

It took years for me to change the old conditioning.  Thankfully, those challenges are far behind me. These days I place greater emphasis on remaining healthy, strong and fit over skinniness. In the process of re-framing perceptions about the importance of size and shape, my husband and business partner, David Malloy and I developed the Body Dynamics System~Your Body is Your Buddy. Our model provides the tools to transform limiting beliefs about the scale, weight and size. It also assists clients in loving and accepting the bodies they have healthy weight management program that assists clients in reaching a place of acceptance about the body they have. The Body Dynamics System provides practical tools that assist clients from the ‘inside out’ over outwardly driven fixations and image management. Clients using the  Body Dynamics System stop chasing after an image that may not be right for them and move into a place of self-acceptance and confidence in the body they have.

The Body Dynamics System assists clients in discovering underlying attitudes and beliefs about their self-perception about weight, size and body-image concerns.

The Body Dynamics System assists clients in discovering underlying attitudes and beliefs about their self-perception about weight, size and body-image concerns.

For more information about the Body Dynamics System for healthy weight management check the page link on the Fresh Beginnings Personal Development Website for this course.

I was able to overcome my unhealthy and destructive coping mechanism and overcome two eating disorders by looking at the root causations. Within my pathway to discovery I came to the realization that the size, shape and appearance of the body has little to do with the essence of the person inside.

During my healing journey to health and wholeness I learned how to love and accept the body I was in. It is the starting point we all need to have. Accepting it does not translate to liking where we are but it is the needed start point to facilitate change. From that point I shifted my priorities and chose to focus on being healthy rather than pressuring myself to lose weight or measure my worth by the scale. That ephiphany was a milestone for me and set me on my current path of healthy, dynamic living.

This approach is the foundation of the Body Dynamics System. This format is the one we present in our private and group life coaching sessions. Once clients understand and accept that the outer is a mirror to their inner landscape they begin to take their power back. With consistency and perseverence they create positive, life affirming changes that last. Loving and accepting the body frees up a tremendous amount of energy.

Societal changes reveal a rapidly expanding population of baby-boomers. The fixation on image-management shows within a culture that pursues youth with some articial approaches and plastic surgery is one of the highest paying specialties in medicine. If one is clear about their reasons for having work done then it usually acheives the desired goal However, if the expectation is not realistic it can lead to further discontent.

With our healthy weight management program, we offer ways for clients to focus on the enhancement of the bodies they have. As they change and re-frame their expectations, it is easier to release the need to force the body to fit the unrealistic ideas within media hype and advertising ideals.  In my view, life is a journey of learning to love and accept ourselves. Once that is in place, it is easier to extend it to others.

Once we achieve that level of self-acceptance the mind is free from encumbering limited perceptions of worth based on appearance. After choosing to cease adhering to the limiting dictates of the media I develope my own “mojo.” Now I choose to wear what feels good on any given day. I am not a fashionesta and proud of it. Women who develop their own style are the ones I respect. Jumping on bandwagons to follow the crowd is of no interest to me.

Being true to oneself is liberating! The same principles apply to the needs of my body over know anything anyone else says. It has a voice with wisdom. When we listen and hear the body guides us to what it need to heal and restore balance. At this age and stage of life, I enjoy being fit. Exercise is not a chore…but a feel-good experience.  So much so that I have another Blog that presents ways to remain fit and fabulous as we age.The link is:

Although the aging process continues we can remain strong and resiliant through balanced, healthy living. At one point, I did not want to accept the lines and wrinkles on my face and considered other options. I view them and my gray hair as reminders that I am feeling younger than my age and that is all that matters. With a strong, fit and fabulous body that supports me along the road of life, the external appearances are secondary to health and vitality from within.

Without our physical bodies, we are in another realm. After everything, I put my body through in my youth I am grateful that I am strong and healthy. Although David and I are not “young” in actual age, we are successfully “youthing as we age.” Our focus intentions involve the love, acceptabce and respect for the bodies we have. Consequently, we are thriving rather than surviving as we move into the advancing years. In our personal and professional experience we know for sure that age is just a number. One’s real age is determined by the quality of life they have, activity levels and attitude.

Everyone needs a starting point that begins with self-acceptance. The Body Dynamics System supports the "whole self" and assists clients in their transformational growth process from the inside out.

Everyone needs a starting point that begins with self-acceptance. The Body Dynamics System supports the “whole self” and assists clients in their transformational growth process from the inside out.

In our private and group facilitations, we consistently remind clients that good health is not a right. Rather, a responsibility requires mindfulness and balance within body, mind and spirit. I am always interested in how others feel about the bodies they have. Care to share your perceptions about yours? Are you locked into the dieting mentality?  Do you dislike parts of your body or do you love and accept your uniqueness?  Have you made peace with the body you have?  For now, I embrace and love my body temple…how about you?

How Better Sleep Can Help Improve Your Exercise Efficiency

Healthy and strong as I age.

Healthy and strong as I age.

How Better Sleep Can Help Improve Your Exercise Efficiency.

Basic Statistics

Experts tell us that to improve athletic performance, sleep is one of the most critical components. The Better Sleep Council did a national survey in 2008 and found the following trends:

Getting nine hours of sleep each night means the better chance of performing higher-intensity workouts.
70 percent of people do not get adequate amounts of sleep every night so they are not able to perform at their best.
One of every three people surveyed feel that quality sleep is critical to improving physical performance.
Sleeping longer leads to faster sprint times, lower heart rate, more energy when working out, better endurance and improved mood.
When you are sleeping, your body is producing human growth hormone. This hormone is necessary for your muscles to repair themselves and grow. This is important for everyone, but especially athletes who work hard to improve endurance, speed and strength so that they can excel in their sport.

As you sleep, your body is working to improve muscle memory, your reaction time and your energy and motivation. Muscle memory is important to do the different things you do everyday. This, of course, includes exercise, but it also includes basic things like hauling in the groceries, playing with the kids and running up and down the stairs.

How Much Sleep do I Need?

The old adage about eight hours a night is true. 7.5 to 9 hours a night is what adults should be aiming for to help ensure that their body is properly rested and repaired. It is estimated that those that are very active, such as athletes, should actually add an hour to this estimation every night to make sure that they are getting enough sleep. This extra 60 minutes can give you that extra edge that you need to take your game or workout to the next level.

Exercise Timing

Sleep does help, but you want to make sure that you are fully awake before exercising to get the full benefits. It is best to exercise between 5pm and 7pm. This is a time where you are most alert and it will not affect your circadian rhythm. This is good news for those who work a traditional job because you can get your workout in after work.

You want to avoid morning workouts because your body is still adjusting to being awake. For example, you are warming up because your body temperature lowers as you sleep and takes a while to return to normal after waking up. If you wake up and then hop on the treadmill, for example, you risk overheating and exhaustion.

On this same note, you want to avoid working out late at night because it can affect your body cooling down and getting ready for bed. If you exercise too close to bed time, you risk actually interfering with your sleep because you are essentially telling your body to stay awake.


About The Author: Brandon Travis works in the health and wellness field. He writes about sleep quality and snoring cures which help people realize a better nights rest. When he isn’t working he likes to spend time with his 2 sons teaching them about the great outdoors.