Writer’s Nook~A Corner to Share Information, Links and Resources for Writers

By Coralie Raia Darsery-Malloy
This Writer’s Nook for Writers Blog shares information and helpful resource links for others progressing along their writing road. The Coralie Raia Writing Road board on Pinterest(link below) has ever increasing numbers of informative boards with ideas and links that support our path. I am always interested in connecting with all writers as our process requires some solitary confinement to get the ideas down.

Here are some networking links for writers on writing:
OM Times is a social networking forum and it is a wonderful site for writers.
http://community.omtimes.com/

Writer’s Nook at Calgary Public Library
http://calgarypubliclibrary.com/blogs/writers-nook?p=1931

The National Writing Union provides information that writer’s need to know.
https://nwu.org/

Writer’s Digest…another good website with information on every aspect of writing.
http://www.writersdigest.com/
Pubmatch
PubMatch Mission Statement:

To create a worldwide community for the publishing industry that encourages the creation of business relationships and the worldwide spreading of ideas. PubMatch will facilitate communication, data warehousing and the simplification of rights marketing for publishers, agents, authors and others, making it the go-to place for the international publishing community to find new titles and new talent.

http://www.pubmatch.com/

As writers we truly do struggle to seek and provide a sense of coherence in our offerings.

As writers we truly do struggle to seek and provide a sense of coherence in our offerings.

As a professional writer and author this is the best advice I have been given...and give to aspiring writers too.

As a professional writer and author this is the best advice I have been given…and give to aspiring writers too.

The ideas I stand for are not mine.

I borrowed them from Socrates.

I swiped them from Chesterfield.

I stole them from Jesus.

And I put them in a book.

If you don’t like their rules…whose would you use?

–DALE CARNEGIE

Whatever you can do,

Or dream you can…begin it.

Boldness has genius, power and magic in it.

–Goethe

Anything that the human mind

can conceive…and believe…it can achieve.

          –NAPOLEON HILL

No regrets…as it is never too early or too late to do the things you wish you had.

It does not matter what was in the past...what matters in living in the Now and becoming more of who we truly are.

It does not matter what was in the past…what matters in living in the Now and becoming more of who we truly are.

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It is never too late to be great or fly high and free with our own wings.

It is never too late to be great or fly high and free with our own wings.

By Coralie Raia Darsey-Malloy

I do not have the name of the person who originated some of the ideas in this blog as it was sent out in a mass email forward. When I read it I decided to modify it to the present tense and make it about living in the now rather than living with regret about what we wish we’d done.

My hubs David and I named our personal development company Fresh Beginnings because we know for sure it is never too early or too..t be great and live a happier more fulfilling life. It is all in the choices we make and our attitude and approach to life at any age and stage. So instead of lamenting the past we suggest living in the “now” of our daily experiences and embrace every bit of good we have. For the down or daunting times we believe there are no failures when we learn life lessons. For anything that is a regret from the past we choose to move on and make the past wishes part of the present.

These are some ideas that we did not do in the past but we add them to our bucket/anticipation list and are making the passions happen. That way when our time to leave this plane comes we will not look back with regret but inwardly smile and say…I lived well, laughed in the sun, cried in the rain and embraced each bright new dawning.

Rather than regretting I did not climb more mountains, walk in the woods and swim in natural settings…I make more time to do it and life is good.

Rather than denying the enjoyment of  ice cream and sweet treats I eat them in moderation.

I worry less and therefore I have the energy needed to work through my troubles because I have less imaginary ones.

Rather than splitting off and not paying attention I live with mindfulness and appreciation rather than projecting into the future or worry about the past.

Rather than being a person who never goes anywhere without a thermometer, a hot water bottle, a raincoat and a parachute I now would travel lighter and trust the process.

Rather than worrying about appearance I now choose to walk without shoes more often and feel the grounding power of the earth beneath my feel.

I used to worry about appearing silly or childish…now I dance in wild abandon as if no one is watching…even when they are.

With the revision in my thinking I hold to the belief that we are only young once but we can remain kids at heart forever by making angels in the snow, going on  merry-go-rounds, being pushed on a swing and dressing to express myself without the dictates of the fashion police.

By living in the moment I am focused enough to stop and smell the spring flowers, savour each mouthful of food, remove limiting beliefs about the “should” and follow the whims of my spirit regularly.

Today is a perfectly good day this is for starting over,  living fully and completely, wringing every drop of enjoyment in where I am  from it before jumping headlong into the next.

Rather than cluttering my mind with an overly busy agenda I choose to slow down,. simplify my life and live within my means.

In choosing to live without regret I no longer take myself or others so seriously.

I make time to take care of myself and my body so I will remain healthy and strong as I age. With less regret and distraction I make “me time and self-health a priority without guilt.

I would remind myself more often that happiness is our spiritual birthright and worry about the future or regretting the past eclipses our joy in the “now” of our experience.

Even the Divines cannot change the past so there is no point in living back there. Nor is there any point in regretting what might have been. More often than not we do not have control over what happens to us…but we always have a choice about how to respond and what to do about it. Assessing regrets or perceptions of being able to live life over. One the clarity is there it can provide a new blueprint for the rest of life and how to begin moving towards what wasn’t done before by doing some of it right here, right now…or in the not too distant future.

As is frequently said; “Better late…than never.”

Art of Living Ideas from my Mom

By Coralie Darsey-Malloy

We learn simply by the exposure of living.
Much that passes for education
is not education but ritual.
The fact is that we are being educated…
when we know it least.

My Mom...somewhere over the rainbow...that's where she will be.

My Mom…somewhere over the rainbow…that’s where she will be.


–David P. Gardner

When my mother, Edwina Kathleen Cunningham passed away on April 20th, 2005 my husband David and I chose to respect her wishes to be cremated. Mom did not believe that people “died.” Instead they left their bodies and transitioned to another realm. David and I have Celtic roots and we were both raised with a belief that rather than grieving the death…we celebrate the life…and that we do.David prepared a wonderful visual presentation of my mother’s life and our choice of music reflected her favorites. She raised me with a lot of home-spun everyday wisdom ways and I wrote them down and gifted people with a copy at her memorial so her legacy would live on. I also chose some of her personal possessions and wrapped them up as commemorative reminders for them from Mom and the bond they had with her.
The intent of this Blog is to share my philosophy for healthy, balanced living with others. It feels appropriate to share the ideas that contributed to my values and philosophy. Although her given name was Edwina she preferred Winnie. And so it is. The following blog are some of Mom’s art of living ideas. Friends who have copies of these ideas say that some of it mirrors the valuable life lessons they learned from their mothers. So if you enjoy it and it resonates let us raise our glasses in a toast to all those wise women who are our mothers, friend and mentor. Feel free to pass this along to others but please acknowledge Coralie Raia’s Writing Road as the original source. Thank you.

WINNIE’S WISDOM:

Develop and maintain an attitude of gratitude. Everything can change in an instant.
It is not the size of your bank account that matters…but the size of your heart and ability to give.
God is always there to help us through, keep your faith, pray and ask for guidance and it will come…it always does.
When you pray for an answer and it is no…remember that is still an answer.
During the worst of times always remember…they will get better. Life is always changing and there is a beginning, middle and end to everything.
Live by the Golden Rule and ALWAYS treat others the way you like to be treated. Have understanding, acceptance and respect for differences, even when you disagree. When people let you down try to understand why they do what they do.
If when it is hard to understand why people do what they do…forgive them anyway. Forgiveness is freeing and holding on to negative feelings hurts us more than them.
Let things go and move on—life is too short to hang on to ‘stuff.’
Always remember that people’s opinions are just that and it is up to us to decide whether the opinion is valid or stupid.
We need to decide who and what is the authority in our lives…us or them?
When in doubt trust your own felt sense of things. That still small voice comes from the Divines and far more Knowing than human perception.
Do not borrow trouble with worrying about what has not happened yet. Most of what people worry about never happens anyway.
Half of what we worry about never happens so don’t waste time and energy on things until they actually happen.
Watch what you ask for…sometimes it comes in unexpected ways and you need to be clear it is what you truly want.
Creator does not promise us a rose garden but you need to stop and smell them anyway.
Keep wishing upon your star because they can and do come true.
When people give you a compliment express your appreciation and accept it graciously. counter it and accept it graciously.
Count your blessings every day they remind us what IS working when other things are not.
Be grateful for the simple things…a cool wind on a hot day, scent of early spring flowers, fresh air after the rain, rainbows and so much more.
the daily supply of food and beverages.
Be thankful for good health, mobility the five senses and imagine life without any of them.
Ask yourself on a regular basis…if you were to die today how would people remember you?
Do not define yourself outwardly. Appearances are deceiving and always remember people are people and we all bleed the same colour.
We all get older but we need to keep the kid inside alive and thriving. That is where innocence, joy, enchantment and the unlimited possibilities of magical thinking originate. People who forget how to play and believe in enchantment can get “old” at any age.
Age truly is just a number if you remain young at heart the passing years will matter less.
BE who you are and believe in yourself…or no one else will.
How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?
To have friends you need to be one. Without loving families and friends life can be hard to bear.
Dress to express who you are at any age. Who makes the fashion police the authority anyway? We can choose something else.
Decide whether you intend to be a leader or follower. It is okay to walk to the beat of a different drum as long as it does not hurt others.
Respect and love everything within in nature it is interconnected and has a purpose. Look for treasures and bring them home as a reminder of your connection to the natural world. Celebrate each rite of passage with something special.
Animals and other creatures have feelings and life matters to them. Pay attention and treat them gently and cause no harm to any living thing. …Dog’s ability to love us unconditionally is the way God loves us—maybe that is why dog is God spelled backwards.
Whenever you talk to children or in a wheel chair bend or kneel to make equal eye contact.
Rather than giving as a handout share and assist as a hand up.
When you entertain guests remember that love shows in the details. Make them feel at home, create thoughtful place settings at the table and bring out the best linens, towels and fresh soap if they sleep over.
Make sure you mix in love and positive energy during meal preparation.
Prior to eating say a silent or verbal prayer of thankfulness for good food. Many around the world are not so blessed and go to bed and wake up hungry.
Make and maintain eye contact when engaging with others. The eyes are the windows to the soul.
Be a good listener. Do not interrupt or over talk others. It is rude and disrespectful Whenever that happens back up and apologize hen you talk to people look always look into their eyes, pay attention and really listen. Don’t interrupt. When you do offer a sincere apology.
Never take anyone for granted. Acknowledge the good in life and do not take any of it for granted. One day it will all be gone and we will not be here so live life to the fullest right here, right now. This moment is all we ever have.

Fostering change and the positive ripple effect

Art of Living BEAUTIFUL

By Coralie Raia Darsey-Malloy

During this time of challenge and change, the rapid influx of information is opening people’s minds and assisting them in re-framing old perceptions. The mainstream media presents perspectives in broader terms, thinking outside the box and considering different ways to evaluate humanity’s place within all of creation. The natural ‘ying/yang’ within the cosmic dance includes both male and female aspects of the Divine. Within this equal but different aspect, there is balance without stereotypical definers.

The old systems are changing and do not apply in the same way they once did. In our view, we are here to think beyond existing parameters and think more critically about the old archives and the long list of rules and regulations and books filled with the opinions about what is right/wrong. It is time to ask some questions and decide what is valid for who we are and where we are at any point in our soul development. Who are these authorities? Who makes those rules?

The more enlightened thinker commits to reducing inner and outer noise. With a quiet mind, it is easier to access spiritual clarity. From this place, we are able to grow, thrive and change from the inside out. My hubs David and I are seekers and do not limit our beliefs with specific structures or systems. Instead, we are choose to open our hearts and minds to divergent belief systems and choose ideas that are based on love, honor and respect for differences whether we agree or not. As we get ourselves out of the way focusing on loving more and allowing Source to support our intentions in a perfect way under Grace. Consequently, we know there is no ceiling to how good life can be.

Within the wide range of people, we interact with through our personal development company Fresh Beginnings (www.fresh-beginnings.com) it is clear that we are all students and teachers to each other. Within the energetic vibration of unconditional love and acceptance, it is easier to learn from different cultures and creeds and accept that there is more than one way to become human BE-ing rather than an outwardly directed human DO-ing

Being in sacred partnership with my hubs David, we keep coming up with thoughts about the importance of remaining mindful and conscious as much as possible throughout the day. This process assists in releasing judgments, expectations and misconceptions about Self and others.

In our view, it is a futile goal to attempt to fit in if it is not true to who we truly are. It is stifling, frustrating and unfulfilling. During times of global change, humanity is moving beyond conditioned existence and looking ways to transform ones inner world and heighten awareness. This evolving dynamic creates a ripple effect that inspires other people to cut limiting ties that bind.

Each time anyone becomes more enlightened it contributes to the collective consciousness. The positive ripple effect resonates with each contributor. It is our hope and prayer that increasing numbers will continue to foster an attitude of gratitude, an ability to honor human rights and freedom of choice that allows people to live free without causing harm to others. This dynamic reduces the “isms” of sexism, racism, dogmatism, ageism and opens the way for humanity to seek, create a maintain neutral ground. Within this space of mutual respect proactive problem solving becomes easier.

~♥~ ~♥~ ♥~ ~♥~

 

Butterflies are free as are we with spiritual metamorphasis

Hope, change and transformation

Butterflies Are Free

by

John Welcher

Innocent from the beginning, never knowing a hateful thought

slowly shedding their skin, a moment of wistful beauty is caught

escaping into subtle softness, as they prepare for first flight

naive notions of contentment, only a poetic glimpse of this sight

Random fluttering takes place, no apparent rhyme or a reason

searching longing for the right path, journeys into all of the seasons

meeting others of their kind, tho none seem to spark an interest

singular thoughts keeping apart, feelings of love still very listless

Traveling so very far, sharing their splendor with all that they meet

brief glances of their beauty, images that make us stop and think

wondering why they are there, wonderment of the time they have spent

knowing them only for that moment, their departure so very imminent

Maybe there is no explanation, their behavior just for them to realize

simple life for a simple creature, is plenty for them to memorize

timeless beings always in our hearts, forever there so the mind can see.

 

 

Attitude of Gratitude Journals

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6XUJAlJD5s0

Living with an Attitude of Gratitude assists us in seeing the good in all things.

Living with an Attitude of Gratitude assists us in seeing the good in all things.

By Coralie Raia Darsey-Malloy

 

My mother was a great role model and throughout life, her attitude of gratitude became an inspiration to me. She also encouraged me to write my thoughts, feelings and ideas in journals. Having a gratitude journal is something I continue to this day/. They are a constant reminder about the simple, abundant blessings that come our way every day.

Rather than taking them for granted during the fast pace of modern life my attitude of gratitude journals keep me mindful…and grateful for bountiful blessings. They are also an inspiration during challenging times.  With daily entries about what IS working over what feels daunting it is easier to cope. I believe hope whispers during the times we are tempted to give up or give in. With an attitude of gratitude, it is easier to remember that every stage of life has a beginning, middle and end and difficult passages do as well.

After my mother died with chronic obstructive pulmonary disease in 2005, I am grateful for the gift of breath. As long as there is life and breathe…there is hope. When I had knee and hips problems a few years ago, I put on weight and could not maintain fitness levels.  I applied a number of complimentary healing systems lost 40 pounds and got in shape.  The regime assisted me in a lifestyle where I now feel fit and fabulous as I age. The ability to maintain an active lifestyle is something I regularly add to my gratitude journal. A friend of ours lost her ability to taste and smell after a childhood disease and the ability to savor nourishing food is another daily blessing.

Sight and sound…what would life be like without them is a question I ask. I am thankful for those senses.  They are gifts that keep on giving. I often consider the challenges many face when their eyesight or hearing is impaired. 

Now I include being married to my best friend, doing meaningful work that we both enjoy and being self-employed in my gratitude entries.  I am also grateful for the rural community we live in, our home, pets, and friends on and off-line.  In a world filled with tragedy, loss, upheaval and suffering I am always happy and grateful to read or hear about everyday heroes making a positive difference for those in need.  They are reminders that even in the face of war, hate, violence, fear and instability there are many who continue to work towards peace and provide love and light within the shadows of uncertainty.

In our group and private life coaching sessions, we encourage clients to create gratitude journals. It is a proven method and assists in developing awareness about the blessings many of us enjoy.  The ability to maintain a positive focus creates positive energy and attracts more of what we hope to manifest while making the journey to the destination pleasurable and fulfilling.  

Butterflies as Messengers

This photo is the last one of my mother. Her birthday was Christmas Day and David and I had picked her up from the personal care home she was in to take her our for dinner. We put her in front of the angel/butterfly lights to serve as a reminder to us that her time was near and she would be getting her wings in the not too distant future. She passed away just over four months later on April 20, 2005.

When we were packing her things to remove them from Riverview Personal Care Home I found this poem. It brought tears and a flood of mixed emotions. Within my grief it felt like a message to Mom’s loved ones that she had safely made her transition to another realm and is flying free with her own wings.

She raised me with a love for butterflies as a spiritual metaphor for humanity’s various stages of development throughout life. There are many periods where we cocoon before our emergence into each phase of enlightenment and heightened awareness. This love of butterflies is the reason we chose them as he logo for my book I’ve Been There…A Testimony of Hope (www.ibtbook.com) and our personal devellopment company. As has been said about butterflies…just when the caterpillar’s life is over…it becomes a butterfly.

Mom and her wings

MESSAGES FROM THE BUTTERFLIES

–Author unknown

 If anyone desires a wish to come true

whisper it to a butterfly.

Butterflies do not make any

sounds and cannot tell–

anyone but Great Spirit.

 By making a wish

then releasing it to the butterfly–

on gentle wings

the wish will be carried

to the heavens—then granted.

For butterflies

are the living messengers

of  Great Spirit.